- It all started with - is she yours? yeah...um she's called me Mama/Mommy/Mom at least 10 times since we sat down (and also dug through my purse searching for chapstick which she then applied).
- Then we moved on to "your husband isn't Oriental is he?" "oh so you must have adopted her" - ding, ding, ding we have a winner.
- followed by "so what made you decide to adopt" - would you ask the mother-to-be why she decided to have a baby? just going out on a limb & guessing no
- now my all-time fav "why China, you know there are alot of kids here in the US needing families" - I was a little tired of the inquisition at this point & said something to the effect of "you do just realize you are asking me why I didn't adopt a different child, right...when my daughter is on my lap?" and added that we did what was right for our family because China was where our daughter was. Yes, there are alot of kids in the US needing families - there are a heck of alot of kids worldwide (est. 147 million) needing families. Coop said one time "doesn't everybody deserve to have a Mom & Dad?"
- and it gets better "so, how much did she cost...I bet she was expensive" yeah...just so you know...it's illegal to buy a baby. If you are interested in adopting, I'd be happy to talk to you about the whole shabam but otherwise, if you really want to know how much it costs to complete an adoption you can check out many different agency websites. Again, would you consider asking me how much I paid to deliver my other two kiddos?
- and lastly "wow, she speaks really good English" - yeah, she has lived with English speaking parents for the last 20 months
Now that I got all of that off my chest - anybody still here? I'll leave you with the better part of our weekend
"I wike dis ice cream cone"
"it's a mewtin...I dirty"
"oh I so sad"
check out the muscles in this kiddo's legs
on a mission...probably tattling on Coop
Coop helping plant a new tree
and then the weekend went a bit sour - the neighbors dog bit Chloe's leg...total accident, she's fine but poor girly!
11 comments:
From Sunday Snapshot - love this post! We haven't brought our DD home yet but it will be very interesting to hear what ppl have to say. I loved your comment back though, that was great!
Saw you on Sunday Snapshot and I just had to say, like Nicole, that I loved your response to her question. I, too, have gotten everyone one of those questions you listed, and I'll add to that list "so where are her real parents?"..uggh. By the way, your daughter is absolutely adorable!!
Gin =)
I loved this post! We aren't even very far yet, but the things people say are just insane! My faves--"wouldn't it be cheaper to justhave another baby?", "Aren't you afraid your child will be Communist?", "Why would you adopt when you still have eggs left?" Oh, and let's not forget when you tell people and they look at you. Dead silence. What is wrong with people!!!!
Uhhh how annoying! People can be so ignorant it's amazing...we would love to adopt from another country at some point so I will def have to get the details from you. She is so precious!
Oh Kristi! The nerve of people, I swear! I love how you handled it though. You go girl! Poor Chloe with the dog bite. OUCH! Have a good week. Love reading your blog!
uggghh, what a pain. I hope Piper is not understanding all of the meaning behind people's comments yet, and too bad your other one had to hear it all. Great response though!
Oh! I so hear you! We've been home with our baby girl for one month...and another mom at a church event told my daughter that she was "spoiled" because she was crying and fighting sleep and wanted me to just hold her. I had a lot of stuff boiling on the inside to "tell her" and I probably will next time! People are crazy!
I've gotten many of those comments--the one about "does she understand English" always made me laugh. The strangest question I got was at the grocery store..."What mix is she?" Recently had someone rant at me about everyone who adopts internationally instead of right here at home. It never really stops...I've been at this for 8 years now.
I can get so annoyed about this too. At times I don't mind if Ty isn't within earshot and the person is just genuinly curious, but when people are just trying to pry for info in an insensitive manner, then it's really annoying. And babyshowers are the worst! I remember about a month before bringing ty home everyone just oohed and ahhed over the prego mamas, but for me it was, "Oh yeah, you're getting your son too aren't you.." Idiots.
Great post! I have heard it all, especially with a kiddo that has a visible sn. Peope need a filter on their mouths.
Cara
Ouch, that dog bite is really something!
I never get questions (about China/adoption) from random strangers - but its almost worse when it's your "friends" that ask you the stupid questions!
And "Oriental"?!?!?! That makes me laugh!
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